The Unf*ck Your Fitness Podcast

143. Breaking Down Self-Sabotage: Overcoming Procrastination and Perfectionism + Taking Steps toward Positive Change

• Kristy Castillo

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Today’s episode is covering a topic that is pretty widespread, and affects all of us in some way or another: self-sabotage. 



Self-sabotage is complicated, and it can manifest in countless ways - the root of where it stems from within each of us is different, too. From our fitness goals to our personal ambitions, self-sabotage can rear its ugly head and realllly hinder us from making the progress we want to in our lives. 



Even though it’s a bit conflicting, self-sabotage can be both intentional AND unintentional. Whether it shows up in the form of procrastination, perfectionism, or something else, we still have the power of making INTENTIONAL choices!



Regardless of your past experiences or what you *think* you’re capable of, you CAN make positive changes in your life..but you have to be willing to do so. I hope this episode empowers you to break free from self-sabotage (for GOOD) - I’m rooting for you!!



Here are some questions to help you dig deeper and gain awareness on where you may be self-sabotaging in your own life:


  • Is your behavior aligning with your goal?
  • If not, what is stopping you from taking action to reach that goal?
  • Do you feel uneasiness or discomfort when you progress? If yes, dig deeper.
  • Is this discomfort based on what others told you that limited your aspirations?
  • Is this discomfort based on a fear of failure and worry about looking foolish?
  • Is this discomfort based on a fear of success?
  • Are you concerned with achieving more than you thought possible?
  • If you do better or achieve more, do you believe success is more than you deserve?



In this episode, we cover:

  • Why self-sabotage can be both intentional AND unintentional
  • 3 examples of how people self-sabotage
  • The REAL reason why you’re self-sabotaging
  • Why you see potential in other people so much easier than within yourself
  • Why you continue holding yourself back & self-sabotaging
  • Realizing that you are human and will make mistakes, but you don’t have to make that your permanent ‘story’



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Speaker 1:

Welcome to the Un-Fuck-Your-Fitness Podcast. I am your host, Christy Castillo, and I'm here to give you real talk and cut the BS so you can actually enjoy building a body you love. I'm a personal trainer obsessed.

Speaker 2:

What's up? Welcome to today's episode. We are going to be talking about self-sabotage, and self-sabotage is it's a hard topic. It's a hard topic to talk about. In a way, it's hard to talk about because there's so many different ways that self-sabotage shows up and there's so many different ways that it not only shows up and presents itself, but the root of where it came from is so different for everyone. So it's a really hard topic to explain, to grasp, but I'm going to do my best.

Speaker 2:

I've talked about it before in previous episodes. So if you resonate with this episode and you're like, yep, that is me, go back, search for my previous podcast episodes about self-sabotage, because every time I talk about something, obviously I've learned and grown and it's going to be in a different way. I'm going to approach it in a different way. So you'll learn something from previous episodes about this topic. Even though it's me talking about it, it's going to be different. So it's not going to be conflicting necessarily, it's just. It's just going to be different and a little more thorough. Maybe more so about tips on one episode and one more so about diving deeper into what it is and where it came from. So just trust me, go listen. But this is a really intense, deep, different, complicated topic. But I'm going to unfuck it for you classically and I'm going to unfuck it for you in general, kind of explain what it is, what it looks like when it shows up, where it kind of comes from, what types of people are more susceptible me and then I'm going to talk about whether or not you can move out of it. I'm not going to give tips on how to move out of it and what to do If you are a self-sabotager. I'm going to explain what it is because I firmly believe and I've gotten some comments before on my podcast episode saying like, well, this is a great episode, but you didn't give any tips on how to fix it or certain things like that, and that's fine, it is what it is.

Speaker 2:

But I firmly believe that you have to understand something for yourself before you try to move out of it or fix it. For me to just get on here and say here's five tips on how to prevent self-sabotage, if you are someone that, like me, years ago, would have saw that and thought, well, I don't self-sabotage, that's not me, I don't do that, so I don't need those tips when, yes, I absolutely did do that and I did need those tips. But first I need to understand what it was, how I struggle with it, why and how it shows up in my life, and then I'll give a fuck about fixing it right. But this episode is going to be just about that. So you can understand what it is, understand if you struggle with it, maybe a little bit about why you struggle with it and kind of dive into that so you notice it in yourself. Because you can't fix and adjust and change and improve on things in yourself unless you can't fix and adjust and change and improve on things in yourself, unless you know you're struggling with something. And unless you know yep, that's me, I self-sabotage. Now I know it's not a bad thing, everybody does. We just either don't know it or we haven't been taught what it is. So that's what we're going to do. No more excuses for us. We're going to know exactly whether or not we self-sabotage with fitness at the end of this episode.

Speaker 2:

So again, it's a really hard, complex topic. But I'm going to unfuck it and we're going to dive in and talk about it in a general sense and a deeper sense, and then later these things kind of fix themselves. I'm going to give you some questions actually to ask yourself in the show notes and I'll go. I'll talk about that a little bit. But go to the show notes and look at these questions that you can ask yourself to figure out if you really do self-sabotage. And then going deeper into why, where it came from, and it kind of fixes quote unquote fixes itself once you understand it more. But just like with anything else, you have to have a foundation and you have to understand it. You have to understand self-sabotage as it refers to you, as it affects you. It doesn't matter how self-sabotage affects other people if you're trying to fix it for yourself. So let's try to listen to this. I encourage you to try to listen to this and relate it to yourself. So, as I was writing down my own thoughts and then I went to the internet and Googled self-sabotage to just kind of see what's out there, of course, and see what I relate to and see what people are saying and thinking, and see what I relate to and see what people are saying and thinking, it's a little conflicting.

Speaker 2:

So some say that self-sabotage is intentional and some say that it's unintentional. So holding yourself back unintentionally or holding yourself back intentionally, and this can be by actions that you are taking that are setting yourself back, or it could be things that you're not doing. You're not taking the action to lose weight. You're not taking the action to get healthier, intentionally or intentionally. So I think for me that was something that I struggled with knowing before is like am I doing this intentionally? That was something that I struggled with knowing before is like am I doing this intentionally or am I doing it unintentionally? Because everything I had kind of looked up years ago was like unintentionally and I thought, well, good, it kind of gave me an outright like oh, I'm unintentionally holding myself back. And then it's like no, now it's intentional.

Speaker 2:

And I agree with both. Sometimes we don't know and we just don't think about it enough and we don't care. We're just like, yeah, I'm not doing that, I don't want to think about it. Sometimes I believe that it is firmly intentional, we're like, no, I'm not ready to do that yet, and so it's intentional. But either way, depending on what you read and kind of take that for yourself, I think it can be both, and I think it is both. You read and kind of take that for yourself. I think it can be both and I think it is both. So that's what it is. You are hindering your progress, your own progress, either intentionally at times or unintentionally at times, by taking certain actions or not taking any action, but either way, it's when you hinder your own progress. I think we can all admit if not, you're a liar to yourself. We can all admit that we hinder our own progress and probably more often than anyone else hinders our own progress. So we all are guilty of self-sabotage.

Speaker 2:

Three common examples of this are procrastination, perfection and self-medication. Okay, and yeah, I'm definitely. I used to be a procrastinator. I'm not really so much anymore, and this could also be me thinking that I'm too busy and have too much to do, that I can't do X, y and Z. That could be an excuse. I don't know. See, here we are. Maybe I'm self-sabotaging. I firmly believe that right now I'm too busy to do certain things. I'm not procrastinating them, I just have an order of importance and some things just aren't at the top, but those are things that actually don't need to be done Right now. I'm pretty good at prioritizing what actually does need to be done. My fitness is number one. I'm always at the top of my own list. Physically, I need to work out, I need to do those things right. So I think I'm pretty good there. But I have absolutely been guilty of procrastination. Perfectionist, yep. Type A yep, that's me. And self-medication no, that's not me, but it makes sense. So procrastination, perfection and self-medication, let's dive into those a little bit.

Speaker 2:

People who self-sabotage often procrastinate. Procrastination is a way that you show that you're never ready and you put off a good thing. That's me, right. I have to pay my bills, I have to do the laundry, I have to do client check-ins, I have to go work out. I do procrastinate my workouts sometimes. Actually, I'm like I'm going to work out at 10 o'clock, or I'm going to work out at 7 o'clock, or I'm going to work out at 4 o'clock, and I'm always always two hours after that. So I guess I do procrastinate. Look at me. So we're always, we're like never ready, we never want to, we're always putting it off. I'll do that later. I'll do that later for whatever reason. Right In a real sense in terms of workouts.

Speaker 2:

I guess more serious things it's because of a fear of disappointing others or failing or succeeding. So usually when we're procrastinating something, it's not because, honestly, we're so busy and we can't and all the things it's. I'm scared if I do this, I'll do it wrong. I'm scared if I do this it'll be stupid. I'm scared if I do this I'll fail at it. Or I'm scared if I do this I'll be really good at it and I will succeed. And I don't know what that means. Totally guilty of all of those.

Speaker 2:

Holding yourself to an impossible standard, like perfectionism, will also cause setbacks. It's also gonna cause inaction. So if you're trying to be perfect at something, for me anyway that means I'll not do it. That's inaction. Because I want this workout program, I need to do it right.

Speaker 2:

Okay, here's a good example for fitness. It's a 90-day program. I can't start it because I have a vacation coming up and I won't be 100% on track. So I need to wait until after the vacation because after that it looks like I have a solid 90 days where I can do absolutely everything perfect. So I'm not going to start a program. I'm not going to start tracking my macros. I'm not going to start working out. I'm not going to start doing fucking anything until it's absolutely perfect circumstances In business.

Speaker 2:

For me, this can look like. I'm not going to start a podcast because I don't know how to start a podcast. I might look stupid, I might do it all wrong, I might fall flat on my face, everyone might make fun of me, or it might go really, really great, blow up and be a huge success and I won't know what to do with that. For me, starting a podcast was both of those things. So that's scary and that's a control thing, that's a perfectionist thing.

Speaker 2:

So yeah, and if we fail, a lot of times we're ashamed, we end up thinking that we are the worst, we let everyone down. That creates anxiety, that creates depression. So there's a lot that goes into that. But that's a form of self-sabotage.

Speaker 2:

And then also for the self-medication, there's usually this constant battle in certain types of people that you're wanting to be so successful and you're also wanting to be more successful than you can be. That makes you want to soothe yourself through alcohol and through drugs and through different medications, in that sense to kind of shut your brain off. So you're either kind of wanting to be so successful and you'll never reach that power level, you'll never get there. So you think you're not good enough. You keep pushing Maybe that's coming from outside sources of doing a job you don't want to do, or showing up in a way you don't want to show up, or feeling like you have to be this profession, in this rank to get the love and support and the recognition from certain people that you just you can't keep up and you keep fighting to be something you're not. So that that's like a job example and that's pretty drastic.

Speaker 2:

So to bring it back down to procrastination and perfection but self-medication is a real thing where you can talk yourself into not being good enough and then that can go into self-medication of anxiety medication, depression medication, which I take. So I'm not knocking that at all. But if I look at the root of that, it goes way, way, way, way, way back right. It's not just like, oh, I'm anxious and depressed, so I need medication. It's like I'm anxious and depressed because X, y and Z right. So again, not knocking that, I take medication, I love it, I swear by it, I need it right now and it is what it is.

Speaker 2:

But those are types of examples of people that usually fall into self-sabotage. So self-sabotaging people, often perfectionists. You probably overthink every single detail. You think everything has to be right. I know this because that was me and I'm talking about fitness journey.

Speaker 2:

Again, going back to that example of I'm not going to start this program because I don't have 60 days or 90 days that I can absolutely dedicate to perfect, right, the 75 hard. You can only do that at certain times because you have to be on for 75 days and that was a very common thing. Like I want to do one-on-one coaching with you, I want to start Fit Club. Back in the day it was Beachbody. I want to start this Beachbody program but I can't start it until April. I can't start it until June. I can't start it until August because I don't have 90 days where I can be perfect, be absolutely excellent, spot on, not fuck up everything. I want to do every single thing, perfect, and if I don't, I feel like I failed. I feel like I'm not good enough again. I failed again, I'm not good enough again.

Speaker 2:

So why start? And then that's inaction. Or you take the wrong kind of action and you're all screwed up right. Either way, when you're self-sabotaging, it's action that's not taking you anywhere, or it's taking you somewhere you don't want to go, or it's inaction taking you literally nowhere. So that is the definition, the reason behind self-sabotage, and I want to really sit with that and kind of take what I'm saying and relate it to your life in certain ways. Relate it to fitness right now. Relate it to your life in certain ways elsewhere. Definitely do that Right now.

Speaker 2:

I want you to take what I'm saying and relate it to your life in areas regarding fitness, meaning, why can't you get your steps in? Why can't you track your macros? Why can't you stop eating shitty foods more often than you need to? Why aren't you starting a workout program? Why aren't you doing the things that you want to do? You know how to lose weight. If you've gotten this far in the podcast, you know how to lose weight. You know how to lose fat. You know how to work out. If not, you know someone that can help you Hello me. But you're still not doing the things.

Speaker 2:

If you're self-sabotaging in some areas of fitness, maybe you're tracking macros, but you're like I can't get myself to start Fit Club. I can't get myself to start coaching. I can't get myself to do anything on YouTube because I'm not going to be perfect. I'm in the middle of holidays, it's basketball season. I'm crazy. I'm a crazy person. I've got so much to do. I can't add another thing on right now.

Speaker 2:

Maybe that's self-sabotage. Maybe the exact thing you need to do is start your day for yourself is you need to get a workout in, you need to go for a walk, you need to get on your walking pad and hit your 10k steps. You need to hit your protein because you'd feel so goddamn good about yourself if you did. Maybe that's exactly what you need, but you're saying I don't want to do that because I feel like I might miss a day and then I would feel like a failure and then I would feel bad. Right, so you keep yourself stuck.

Speaker 2:

So think about these things and what I'm saying, like how is this showing up for you in your journey right now? What are you telling yourself? I can't do that, and sometimes it is unconscious or unintentional. Like I said before, it's easier to see it happening in someone else. So, kind of, take yourself out of the equation. This is nice, because I can see my clients saying like, oh, I can't do that right now. I can't fit that into my schedule.

Speaker 2:

I only have three days a week to work out right now, and I feel like I need five to be able to see any changes in my body. Well, you don't, you only need three. So who told you you needed five? Who told you? And they'll say well, I thought I used to do Beachbody and 21-day fix is five days a week. So I thought I had to do five days a week. Well, you don't. I'm here to tell you right now. As your coach, I can create workouts for you for three days a week. You can get those in. You can just hit your 10,000 steps or whatever you need to do. The other days. You can still go to that yoga class, you can still go to certain things with your friends, but you can absolutely see progress. Working out three days a week, lifting three days a week, hitting your macros five days a week, that's better than not doing anything, right? So I can see it.

Speaker 2:

It's like when a friend says they can't do something, or they're like I can't apply for that job, I'm not good enough for that job, I don't have what it takes to do that, and you're like are you kidding? Best friend, you are the coolest person I know. You're so smart, you're so talented, you're so qualified. What do you mean? But you can't see it in yourself. It's like also if someone were to say to me that they want to eat healthier, they want to eat better quality food, but then they hit up a fast food chain every day and I'm thinking it's like they're saying that not even realizing Like, oh, I want to eat better quality foods, I want to eat better, I want to do better, but I just can't meal prep. So I have to go to McDonald's every single day for lunch. And if someone were to say that to you, you'd be like that makes no goddamn sense. What do you mean? Or someone saying I know I should go to the gym today, but instead I'm going to just go straight home and drink. I don't know. It's hard because you can see it from other people. You see it from the outside, but when you're in the midst of that, sometimes you can't see it.

Speaker 2:

It was like me in the podcast. I really wanted to start a podcast. I really wanted to get myself. I love to talk and articulate things. I love to just say things how they are. It's a God-given talent Some probably hate it of mine. I wanted to do that, but I thought I can't do that. I am not like these other people that have a podcast. Are you kidding? I genuinely thought that Sometimes I still do. And I had my friend Emily, who now is my podcast editor, telling me no, you should do that, you're really good at it. A lot of people were like you should have a podcast. We like to listen to you coaching us. You should say that on a podcast. And I was scared that people, like I said, would judge me, wouldn't like me, and I was also scared that I would be really good at it and I would be successful. And both of those things have happened. And here I am right. I had to work through that.

Speaker 2:

So there's different ways that you can see it in someone else saying, hey, I can't apply for that job, and you're like, yes, I can. People saying I should really eat healthier, and then they're not taking the time to go. Just stop at a gas station and get some healthy snacks or stop at a grocery store and grab some healthy snacks, instead of going and grabbing a burger. It's almost as fast to walk into a grocery store and go grab some hummus and some turkey and some carrots. I don't know, that's very random. Then it is to go into a McDonald's and order fast food. So there's different ways where you're like no, you don't have to go out to eat and get fast food every single day. What do you mean?

Speaker 2:

Or your friend saying I should go to the gym, but I'm not, I'm not going to do that. It's kind of like people joke around like, oh, I should go to the gym today, but not gonna like. Okay, well, why not? Then? Why do you keep saying that you don't like your body and you're going to make changes? You know you should go to the gym and you're not doing that? It's like Emily listening to me saying I should start a podcast but I can't do that, and she's like no, that's exactly what you should do.

Speaker 2:

Right, take yourself out of yourself. Like kind of look at yourself from a bird's eye view. These are the questions that I'm going to put in the show notes and ask yourself these questions what am I afraid of? What am I not doing? Why am I thinking I have no time? Why am I thinking these things about myself? Why do I think I have to work out five days a week? Why do I think I have to get yes, I said 10,000 steps, I can start with six right, like why am I acting like that?

Speaker 2:

What would I tell my best friend if she were to come to me and say you know, I want to do X, y and Z, but I can't. Or you, whatever it is you want to do, right, I want to get better at X, y and Z. I want to start walking more, I want to start working out, but I can't. I should go to the gym, but I'm not going to. What would you say to that person? Like truly, and think about it as someone like you want that, you want the best for that person, not someone you would be like, oh yeah, I don't go to the gym. That's freaking stupid. Don't say that. Think of it as someone you really love and care about and you want to live a long, healthy life. What would you respond with? Hopefully, what you need to hear. Right, but let's dive a little bit deeper into why. Why do we say I need to go to the gym but I'm not going to? Why do we say I should start a podcast but I'm not going to? Why do we say I should apply for that job but I'm scared? Why do we do that?

Speaker 2:

So something that I've learned, walked through with a lot of my one-on-one clients and myself, is intentional choice. Sometimes we forget that we are choosing daily. All of those things are a choice. I wanted to start a podcast, but I'm not going to. For years I said that Obviously I did. I should go to the gym, but I'm not going to. The last part of that didn't need to happen. You could have just said I should go to the gym, I'm fucking going to. We are choosing something every single day and it's intentional. We forget that we do have and I'm totally talking to myself here as well we forget that we do have intentional choice and we are practicing intentional choice. So, yes, there is that part that is unintentional where we just go by our habits and we don't have any discipline and we're just kind of coasting throughout the day. Right, that's also intentional. But when you notice I should do this, I'm not going to. I want to do this, I'm scared. I want to do X, but I can't because Y. That's a choice. This can be even more frustrating, though.

Speaker 2:

I remember for me when I learned that let's take the podcast, for example I never really had a problem. If I wanted to track macros, I was going to do it. Fitness for me was always like I can do it, I'm in control, that's fine, I'll figure it out. Everything's figure outable as far as fitness for me. I had a coach and they told me what was going to happen to my body and how I'm going to do it. I'm going to have macros and I'm going to do these workouts and I fucking did that. Not a big deal For the podcast example.

Speaker 2:

Why do I feel like I'm not good enough? Why do I feel like I have imposter syndrome? What's the worst? That's going to happen, right? Why am I feeling like I really want to do this? I would freaking love to have a podcast, but I'm not going to. I'm scared.

Speaker 2:

I was so scared I'm intentionally choosing not to do it. But then I'm pissed off that other people are starting podcasts and I'm like how does that person have a podcast? Why are they so confident in themselves? And I'm over here, not? That's frustrating to be like. I know I should go to the gym and I'm not going. I know I should eat more protein and I keep eating Oreos. What is my fucking problem? I know that's annoying to know. Why am I keeping myself stuck? Why would I do that?

Speaker 2:

The truth is, is that because your brain is trying to keep you safe? Your body is used to what you're doing. It's used to comfortable. It likes comfortable. We're safe here. We're safe overweight. We've always been overweight.

Speaker 2:

My mom didn't say this, but my parents always said you're going to be overweight. You're big boned, right. Runs in the family. It is what it is. You've always been the big friend in school. You were the bigger friend in college. This is what it is.

Speaker 2:

You're not athletic. You're not skinny. You're not strong, right. Maybe you've heard all of these things your whole life. You don't go to the gym. You've literally never been to the gym and you're 40 years old. You're not a gym goer. You tell yourself these things. You're not a podcaster, christy. You live in a tiny town. You're a wife and a mom. You're not a podcaster. That's crazy In reality. Obviously I am a podcaster and if you start going to the gym, you're a gym goer, right. And if you lose weight and you lose fat and you get strong, then you're not always going to be overweight. That's not the ending of your story. That's not just genetics. You're not just big boned, right Like. You get to intentionally decide.

Speaker 2:

Is this what I want for myself? Is that true? This person called me this. This person said this. I said you're not good enough to myself. I said that or I made myself feel like this, or someone else made myself feel like this.

Speaker 2:

But is that true? No, what's the worst that could happen? If I start a podcast and people make fun of me, I'll cancel it. I don't know, it's not that big of a deal, right? What happens if people love me and I make all these new friends and I get all these new clients? What am I going to do then? I don't know, but I'll figure it out. I'll figure it out. What they need me to teach them and I'll teach them. I'll figure it out. That's where it came from. What if I go to the gym and people laugh at me because I don't know what I'm doing? Oh well, I don't know. What's the worst that could happen? Somebody laughs at you Big deal. What's the worst that could happen? You work out three days a week and you see slower results than if you would have worked out five, but more results than if you didn't fucking start the program at all. What's the worst that could happen? Right, like?

Speaker 2:

The moral of the story is you can change. You have to be willing to change. You have to be willing to change. You have to be willing to change physically the way you do things and the way that you see things and the way that you think about things, and the other truth is that it takes a long time to do this. You have to get used to the beginning part of this where, yes, I'm a perfectionist, yes, I procrastinate, yes, I have these tendencies to want to be perfect and to not want to fail, and I'm Anxious about those things and if I fail, it makes me feel like shit and I do feel depressed. Yes, all of those things are true. All of those things are true and they're not bad. That's not a bad thing. I can Notice those things, I can change the way I view those things and I can do some shit.

Speaker 2:

Anyways, yeah, I probably am gonna mess up out of of this 90-day program I'm gonna commit to. For example, maybe 10 of the days are a complete disaster. 80 of them are good, though, so that's great right. Maybe even 70 of them are good and the other 20 suck. That's still more. That's still more. It's fine. It's okay to look at things as I'm making progress. I'm not perfect, and that's okay. And who cares what anybody thinks about it, who cares? If people think that you should be perfect, it doesn't matter who cares, we're not going to worry about that anymore.

Speaker 2:

The more you focus on who you are, what your tendencies are, why, who told you that where they came from, it gets better. But you do have to change your outlook. You do have to change the amount of work that you're putting in. You do have to focus on new things. You do have to surround yourself with new people, new environments, and you got this. But I do want you to really, really focus on what I talked about in the beginning of this episode, which is what self-sabotage is, how it shows up, what types of people it shows up in the most those three examples and realize that it's okay, you're going to do it. You're going to self-sabotage. We're human. We're going to do it over and over and over, just like I teach my clients in one-on-one coaching. Once you get through this one time and realize it's okay, I didn't kill you, whatever you thought you're going to suck at, you didn't actually suck at whatever you thought this might kill me if I do this, and it doesn't, you're going to be okay. The more you walk through those things, the better it gets and you realize this is fine, I'm okay, right, it's just that repetition. So another thing I want you to take away is number one is I want you to take away that you can change. I want you to take away that you can change. You do self-sabotage and you can change it. And number two it's okay, whoever you are and whatever you're doing right now and whatever you're dealing with and your personality traits, they came from somewhere and that's okay and you're fine, there's nothing wrong with you. But if you want to change how you show up, you can. Okay, those are the takeaways. So if you think you self-sabotage, it should be each one of you listening to this.

Speaker 2:

Check the show notes because I'm going to put a series of questions in there to ask yourself. I got these particular questions from a website. It is verywellmindcom. I really like this website, but there I don't know how many questions there are. There's a few and there's a series of questions.

Speaker 2:

The first one, for example, is your behavior aligning with your goals.

Speaker 2:

Please answer that yes or no? Probably no. Elaborate a little bit and then, if not, what is stopping you from taking action to make your dreams come true? Okay, these are a little cheesy, but seriously, what is stopping you right? Is your behavior aligning? No, you wanna go to the gym but you're not going. Okay, no, it's not. What's stopping you from doing that? Be honest, what is actually stopping? Go deeper, always go deeper.

Speaker 2:

Is my behavior aligning with my goals? No, why not? Because I'm scared I'm going to fail. Why are you scared you're going to fail? Well, because I've failed in the past at different programs. Why did you fail at them? Because just keep going. Everything is why. Why, why? Until you get to a place where you're either crying or you get really, really deep and you figure it out, or both. For me, I always cry and then I get a little deeper and figure it out. But go check the show notes or go to verywellmindcom also and check into all the things on that site. It's really great. I'll tag that in the show notes. Answer these questions and really just accept yourself and dive into that self-sabotage. First thing, accepting, acknowledging, setting that foundation, and then we can work on changing it. All right, I will talk to you next week.

Speaker 1:

Thanks for listening to today's show. Go ahead and leave a rating and a review and, of course, follow the podcast so you don't miss out on any future episodes. And I would love it so much if you came to connect with me over on Instagram at Christy Castillo Fit. I will see you next time. Bye.